Emotional or psychological abuse
The aim of
emotional or psychological abuse is to chip away at your feelings of
self-worth and independence. If you’re the victim of emotional abuse,
you may feel that there is no way out of the relationship, or that
without your abusive partner you have nothing.
Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such
as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation,
intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse.
Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often
throw in threats of physical violence.
You
may think that physical abuse is far worse than emotional abuse, since
physical violence can send you to the hospital and leave you with
scars. But, the scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run
deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical
abuse—sometimes even more so. Furthermore, emotional abuse usually
worsens over time, often escalating to physical battery. Sexual abuse
Sexual
abuse is common in abusive relationships. According to the National
Coalition Against Domestic Violence, between one-third and one-half of
all battered women are raped by their partners at least once during
their relationship. Any situation in which you are forced to
participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity is sexual
abuse.
Forced
sex, even by a spouse or intimate partner with whom you also have
consensual sex, is an act of aggression and violence. Furthermore,
women whose partners abuse them physically and sexually are at a higher risk of being seriously injured or killed. Economic or
financial abuse
Remember, an abuser’s goal is to control you, and he will frequently use money
to do so. Economic or financial abuse includes:
- Rigidly
controlling your finances.
- Withholding money or credit cards.
- Making
you account for every penny you spend.
- Withholding basic necessities (food, clothes, medications,
shelter).
- Restricting you to an allowance.
- Preventing you from working or choosing your own career.
- Sabotaging your job (making
you miss work, calling constantly)
- Stealing from you or taking your money.
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